Inviting Evaluation from Your Team

I have asked our staff to evaluate me. Using Google documents, I set up group for our staff and me and then placed a document in the group just for this evaluation. I then invited the staff to participate anonymously. Here is what I posted. I will let you know their responses good and bad. (unless they cuss a lot!) [...] Continue Reading…

Do You Really Want This Marriage To Work?

I have spent so many hours with couples or individuals who come for counseling because they say they want to save or improve their marriage only to find that what they really wanted was some justification to get out of the marriage. They were hoping I would be so convinced their marriage was beyond repair that I would encourage them to end it. I would have to admit, I have encountered some seriously damaged marriages, but I have not found one beyond repair if both people are willing to try to make the marriage work. [...] Continue Reading…

2 Things Every Organization MUST Have

As a former businessperson and now as a pastor, I know firsthand there are two areas of operation every church, business or organization has to have in place, and that must be managed well, but most ministers and many leaders, especially the more entrepreneurial leaders, usually know little about and really don’t enjoy doing: [...] Continue Reading…

God WILL Allow More Than You Can Bear (Alone)

I occasionally like to correct a myth I have heard all my life. How many times has someone said to you, “God will never put more trials on you than you can bear”? I challenge you to show me that in the Bible. The problem I have with this myth is that it keeps so many believers wondering why they can’t handle their problems, falsely believing they should be able to, because someone once told them the lie that God would not put more on them than they could. [...] Continue Reading…

Winning Back The Heart Of Your Wife

In working with marriages in distress I’ve discovered that the men in their life have injured most women emotionally, at least at some level. To understand how this is true, one need first understand one of the ways men and women are different. Men, as predominantly thinking beings, receive and process experiences in life in a predominately rational and logical way. If someone says something that offends a man, he will accept or dismiss it based on whether it is true. [...] Continue Reading…

John Maxwell Arrest Story: An Example of Honesty

John Maxwell shares a very authentic story on his blog about a stupid mistake he made that ended badly and the comments are incredibly positive.  I think this is even further example that what people really want is leadership they can trust. That includes not being afraid to tell [...] Continue Reading…

Learning to Handle the Stress of Growth as a Pastor

Our church is three and half years old. We have seen God do some amazing things in our short time and we continue to stand in awe of His grace upon us. Planting a church is hard work and not for the faint-hearted, but it’s been a joy ride at the same time. I love seeing people get excited about life, and especially gaining passion for Jesus, so these have been some of the best years of my life. [...] Continue Reading…