Are the routines and details of your life getting you down?
Is the direction of your life not turning out as you planned?
Are you stressing so much about things that are happening — out of your control — that you can’t enjoy the good things already in your life?
Here’s one suggestion for more joy in the journey…
Throw away the scripts.
The script you’ve written about how life is “supposed to go”. Throw it away. In the trash.
Any script you could write likely won’t work anyway.
Most of the time.
You can throw away the script in:
Your relationship life
Your personal walk with God
And, the script you’ve written for what your children will and will not do — throw that script away also.
Throw them away.
I know we like scripts.
It’s easier. Less messy when we can script things out the way they should work. The way we want them to. It’s cleaner. Life is more tidy with scripts.
Most of us have written scripts in our minds about how life supposedly will work for us.
But, scripts just don’t work. Most of the time.
Life doesn’t follow the script we write for it. In fact, it seldom does in my experience.
You’ll seldom be able to script how long you work at one place. Just try.
You’ll seldom be able to script your relationships. Specifically, how others respond to you. Even the way you respond to them. Try as much as you want and you’ll still say the wrong things — be misunderstood — have to keep working on the relationship. I know some great attempts that failed.
You’ll seldom be able to script your health. Some of the healthiest people I know got cancer.
You’ll seldom be able to script your bank account. One tragedy and everything could be gone. I have seen it many times. I’ve lived it. Script and all.
And, you’re walk with God. You’ll seldom be able to understand all the ways of God. Strive the hardest to please God, follow Him closely, and you’ll still have unanswered questions about why God allows some of the things He allows in your life. Testimony after testimony proves this.
And, just when you said your kid would never — your kid will — or so the story goes for so many.
I’m not saying to not have a plan.
I’m not saying not to set an end goal or destination. That would be dumb. Really dumb.
You’ll seldom hit a target you didn’t aim to hit.
I’m talking about the script. The “dialogue” along the way. The exact setting and all the characters and the special effects. The journey to accomplish the vision. The details. The way things get done or accomplished. Don’t be afraid when your story sometimes colors outside the lines. Or goes off script.
Sometimes it’s good just to throw away the script.
I watch so many people stress about the details of life — the things outside their ability to control — that they miss the joy in the journey.
When people completely rely on a script — the one they have written for their life — they sometimes fall apart when things don’t go exactly as written. They have a hard time getting back into character. And, they have a hard time adjusting to the other characters in their life who went off script.
And, yet, the show must go on…
Things will seldom turn out just as planned.
Granted, having a plan helps you adjust accordingly and more easily, so I say have one — I even write posts telling you how — but the script will seldom live up completely to the paper upon which it’s written. Certainly not in every scene.
Throw away the script. You’ll stress less when you can’t remember the lines.
“In his heart a man plans his steps, but the Lord determines his steps.” – Proverbs 16:9
“As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is formed in a mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the work of God, the Maker of all things.” – Ecclesiastes 11:5
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not My ways.” This is the LORD’s declaration.” – Isaiah 55:8