Gayle Haggard told her humbling story about her husband, Ted Haggard’s moral failure. You probably read about it…( #UnderStatement) If you haven’t, you can read more HERE. Most of us can’t imagine finding out that our husband had a secret life as Ted Haggard had. As a pastor, I can only imagine the trauma that went through his family, his church, and his personal life.
Gayle threw out so much in a short time that I decided rather than do a commentary I would share some of her statement that caught my attention most:
This is my moment to confess aloud to the whole world what I really believe and who I have confidence in…
My relationship with my husband, the church, even my family was at stake, but this is my opportunity to reveal what I really believe.
I was challenged, did I have the courage to do the things Jesus teaches us to do? I really do believe He will never leave us or forsake us… I believe that we do not abandon when the going gets tough. It seems like everybody I counted on was failing me.
God was telling me to love and He was telling me to forgive. The implications would be hard, but I was determined to live out the faith I had claimed to have. What good is forgiveness if you don’t bear with one another and forgive as the Lord forgave us?
I became the “sinner” for staying with my husband by the judgment of the church.
The evidence of our faith is shown by what we do when we face our greatest trials.
A great test of faith is how do we respond when another person sins.
Even though I was shocked at the nature of my husband’s sin, I was not shocked that he sinned.
There is not one city in America where the number of people attending church is increasing.
The church appears to not know how to model what we preach.
The world watches when we have a scandal and wants to see how we respond.
We are no better or no worse than any other human…but we have been redeemed.
I would hope as a church we would be able to grasp the real meaning of the Gospel.
Sharing my story has brought many others to share stories proving to me the church is often not the safe place to share the real struggles of life. (She went on to say the world seems to forgiven easier than the church.)
Gayle offered a sobering reminder to us all of what grace and forgiveness looks like. I plan to buy her book Why I Stayed: The Choices I Made in My Darkest Hour.
What about you? Can you imagine offering the kind of forgiveness Gayle has had to offer her husband? Give me your thoughts.