One single act of courage can change a life…often many lives.
No doubt, if you live a “normal” life there will be decisions you have to make that take courage. You will often have to walk by faith, be willing to risk everything, and trust God for the results, which often seem slow to arrive.
Sometimes doing the right thing is not the easiest thing to do. Most of the time, it takes courage to follow your heart, conviction, or God’s calling on your life.
But, when we act with courage into the places where God leads, it always brings greater rewards than we could imagine.
I reflected recently on some random examples that I have seen people make over the last few years…some of them from within my own family…that took courage, but the results were huge. At the time, some of them may or may not have seemed to be that “big of a deal”…and some of them were obvious risks, but in the process of completing them, the courage required can be equally huge.
20 Random Life-Changing Acts of Courage
- Leaving the job you hate (or love) so you can start the dream you’ve hidden.
- Taking the first step towards your God-given dream when everyone else is saying it can’t be done.
- Confronting the unspoken conflicts in a marriage.
- Offering forgiveness even when undeserved.
- Trusting God with money you don’t have.
- Beginning a Christian ministry in a predominately Muslim country.
- Letting go of the employee who is holding back the team, yet refuses to improve.
- Attempting again something you’ve failed at so many times.
- Planting a church…or trying to change an existing one.
- Ending the friendship that always drags you down.
- Trusting one more time the one who has hurt you so much.
- Moving the family for a new “opportunity” when the outcome is unclear.
- Speaking truth in love when it’s politically unpopular.
- Releasing the right to get even, even at the expense of your pride.
- Surrendering your will to God’s will.
- Putting other’s agenda ahead of your own.
- Standing up for someone everyone else is rejecting.
- Reaching out to a stranger, because you felt “led” to do so.
- Admit your struggle, sin, or failure to someone…even though you are afraid of the consequences.
- Ask for help even though you’re embarrassed to do so.
As I stated, those are random examples and your examples will be different from mine. Granted, some of these “appear” harder than others…requiring more courage. I never know when I write a post like this which chord I will strike and with whom. I have learned, however, that context makes life relative. Your act of courage can be “equal” to mine if God is calling you to an unknown reality. Moving forward into uncertainty requires a courage you don’t always have initially. Choosing whether or not to move forward and mustering the needed courage, is often what separates the ones who achieve great things from those who remain disappointed with their progress in life.
Here’s a voice of encouragement to you today…if you know you need to move forward…but you are afraid…I understand. I’m praying you’ll find the courage to trust God with the outcome and do what you know to do next.
What is something you have had to do that took a great deal of courage?
One of my closest friends and I hosted a Christian radio talk show for 17 years. He was out of town one morning for Christmas break and I had to do the show alone. As I was preparing that morning, I read Mark 5.
The story of the woman subject to bleeding has stuck with me for several weeks and let to a New Year’s resolution I have been mindful of ever since. It became my “Jesus resolution”.
To save you time looking up the story, I have pasted it here:
A large crowd followed and pressed around him. And a woman was there who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years. She had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she had, yet instead of getting better she grew worse. When she heard about Jesus, she came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, because she thought, “If I just touch his clothes, I will be healed.” Immediately her bleeding stopped and she felt in her body that she was freed from her suffering.
At once Jesus realized that power had gone out from him. He turned around in the crowd and asked, “Who touched my clothes?” “You see the people crowding against you,” his disciples answered, “and yet you can ask, ‘Who touched me?’” But Jesus kept looking around to see who had done it. Then the woman, knowing what had happened to her, came and fell at his feet and, trembling with fear, told him the whole truth. He said to her, “Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering.”
(Mark 5:24-34 NIV)
The story prompted a thought that I shared that morning on the radio.
What am I going to do with Jesus in the New Year?
Here’s what came to me from this story.
Seek Jesus more passionately.
Once this woman heard of Jesus she began to track Him. She became a “Jesus groupie” of sorts. She knew Jesus was her only hope.
That’s the way I want to pursue Him in the New Year.
Cling to Jesus more tightly.
It did not matter to the woman that she was not supposed to be in the crowd. Her physical condition should have kept her away, but she was willing to risk everything to “touch His garment”. Cultural expectations couldn’t keep her from Jesus.
I want that kind of commitment to Christ in the New Year. Regardless of what is politically correct, just give me Jesus.
Claim Jesus more readily.
When Jesus turned to look for the person who had touched him, the woman came forward. She could have left. She had received what she wanted. She didn’t have to stick around for public attention, but she was willing to declare her faith publicly. In times of hardship or times of blessing, she followed Jesus to make Him known.
This next year, I don’t want to miss opportunities to tell others about the faith I have in Jesus Christ!
Experience Jesus more expectedly.
The woman was healed! Her faith was rewarded. She went from being an embarrassment to the crowd to the star of the day. Honoring Christ came with great rewards. He blesses those who place their complete faith in Him, to the point that we are still considering her experience with Christ today!
This year, I want to see Christ bigger than ever before. I expect to see Him magnified greatly, as I place my total trust and faith in Him and watch expectantly for His appearance in my life!
What are you going to do with Jesus in the New Year? What’s your Jesus resolution?
Starbucks Howard Schultz had to return to the helm at Starbucks. Apparently, according to numerous reports, he tried to leave, but came back to attempt to reverse the suffering the company experienced. Dell’s Michael returned to help steer Dell back to health. Steve Jobs once returned to Apple. Other companies, who have founder with lesser known names, have seen their founding fathers return to the helm of leadership. Companies like Sun Microsystems, Novell, and Vonage saw founders return. They all returned to help the company succeed again. In some of these cases things were never the same after the return, but my point is they were forced to return to the companies they founded.
I have a theory.
Companies today will face this dilemma more than companies founded in years past.
Could it be that because companies today begin with such an imprint of their founder in their DNA that it is becoming more difficult to pass the reigns of the top spot to another person? Study Starbucks and you have to study Howard Schultz. (He even wrote a book about it.) Look at Dell computers and you see Michael Dell all over the company philosophy. Even today, as he is trying to rebrand the company that holds his name with a newer identity, his personality appears to drive the process. Companies today are very much an impression of their founders. Google’s corporate “fun” environment apparently IS Larry Page. Every time I’ve heard Mark Zuckerberg, founder of Facebook, interviewed he describes the social network with a passion that only a founder could exhibit.
Companies are launching into their niche faster than ever before. The information age and technology allows for growth at a pace unknown in previous generations. Much of that growth is a direct reflection on the personality and passions of the founder who is seen in the public as the chief representative of the company. Social media fuels that even faster. I’m not sure building around a personality has been the case as extreme as it seems to be today.
As I view this phenomenon within corporate America, I can’t help but wonder if there are implications for churches as well.
Doesn’t Northpoint have the personality of Andy Stanley? Lifepoint certainly embodies the imprint of Craig Groeschel.
What will happen when these leaders attempt to retire? The answer to that question remains to be seen. I have no doubt these two mentioned are thinking about those issues, but are their lesser known counterparts? We certainly are planting lots of churches. And, that’s a good thing.
But, certainly also, we are planting many churches today that share their DNA with the founding pastor. The world of social media elevates the role of the founder in churches too. People follow leaders…personalities. We can agree Jesus is to be that personality…it is Him we are to follow…but even still, society tends to look for individual leadership to follow these days. Hopefully, those churches are preparing to be churches that will last for years to come.
This thought process encourages a few things churches (and organizations) may want to consider in their beginning years:
- We must be thinking transition of the founder from the founding.
- We must be careful not to elevate people or personalities over a vision.
- Whenever possible, we may want to consider easing a leader out gradually, rather than allowing a fast exit of the founder.
- We must make sure our visions are easily transferable, if we want the church (or organization) to exist long-term.
As with most posts, I don’t have all the answers. I’m, hopefully, just triggering thoughts.
What are yours?
A pastor friend, Robby Gallaty, releases a new book this month on making disciples. I’m impressed with Robby’s story and want you to know about his work. Here’s a quick interview with Robby about Growing Up Book:
Robby, why you are so passionate about making disciples?
In 2002, I experienced a Paul-like conversion after surrendering my life to Christ. The Lord set me free from a three-year battle with drugs. For several months, I wandered aimlessly in my Christian life, uncertain of how to proceed. My upbringing did not promote Scripture reading, memorization, or unrehearsed prayer.
Then one day my life changed forever.
What was the turning point?
Two men took the time to invest in my life: David Platt—author of Radical and Follow Me, as well as the Foreword of my book—and Tim Lafleur. Since then, I have read nearly every book on discipleship, searching for answers to my questions. Although I have read a lot of great books that describe the philosophy and theory of making disciples, I have often been left wondering after reading, “Now what?”
After being discipled, I thought to myself, “If I had a manual for making disciples that was easy to understand and simple to implement, I would not have wandered for so long.” After a decade of research, I wrote Growing Up: How to Be A Disciple Who Makes Disciples as a way of sharing my findings. The information in the book has been tried and tested in a church setting. At Brainerd Baptist, the church I pastor, we have seen the amount of people involved in discipleship groups grow from a handful in 2008 to over 1,000 expected this January.
My book takes the guesswork out of growing closer to the Lord and equipping others to do the same.
Why is Growing Up different than other books on discipleship?
The book contains a step-by-step process for growing in your faith and leading others to do the same. Here are some of the topics covered in the book:
- Three essential relationships every believer must be fostering;
- How to begin, lead, and reproduce a D-Group (i.e., discipleship group);
- Why a D-Group of 3-to-5 is more effective than an 1-on-1 relationship;
- A proven method for HEARing from God;
- One spiritual discipline that every disciple should be practicing;
- The single, fastest way to end laziness in your discipleship group once and for all;
- The difference between an addition and multiplication strategy, and how it applies to your context;
- How to begin a simple discipleship ministry in your church without adding another program;
- Answers to commonly asked questions about disciple-making.
I also have included eleven appendices outlining the entire discipleship process.
For anyone who orders the book before November 15th, I am giving away $250 of discipleship resources:
- Digital copies of the manuscript in Kindle, iPad, and .pdf formats;
- My new e-book: Subtle Threats that May Devastate your Discipleship Ministry and Three Immediate Solutions;
- Three live online training sessions (one hour each). My Replicate Team will disciple you as you disciple your people;
- Growing Up Almanac e-book, a leader’s guide that will outline the weekly meeting time;
- 25% off the Discipleship University Course (Spring 2014);
- All eleven printable appendices.
You can visit growingupbook.com for more information.
Thanks Robby, for challenging us to make disciples, and giving us great tools to do so!
One tough reality of being a pastor is when people you thought were supportive leave the church. For a variety of reasons, people will leave.
Make any change and someone is not going to like it. Life changes and relationships often impact a person’s church attendance. Misunderstanding and unmet expectations cause some people to leave. There are a variety of reasons. I wrote about some of them HERE.
The point of this post is addressing how we respond as pastors and church leaders.
How do you respond when people leave?
Here are 5 suggestions:
Accept it happens – It actually happens in churches where everything seems to be working at the time. Regardless of the reason…people leave. We shouldn’t be surprised simply because they do or think it can’t or won’t happen in the church in which we minister.
Admit it hurts – God is in charge of numbers. I get that. People are responsible to God and not the church. I get that too. People may leave because it’s the best thing for them spiritually. I totally get that also. The bigger issue is whether or not a person leaves “the” Church or “a” church. If they are attending another church we should take comfort in that, but pretending it doesn’t still sting a little is like saying you didn’t feel the bandaid being ripped off your arm. You are human. It hurts. It is difficult not to take personally. Depending on the circumstances or way it happens it may hurt more sometimes than others but it always hurts.
Analyze the reason – This requires asking the hard questions, and admittedly, this too can hurt, but it’s helpful to know even if the answer is you. It requires humility to admit you’re not the church for everyone nor the minister everyone wants to shepherd them. But, you can’t address what you don’t know and there are often valuable lessons to be learned from why a person chooses to leave a church.
Adjust if necessary – Don’t be afraid to admit you could be wrong. If people feel the church wasn’t meeting their needs try to discern if it’s them or the church. If it was a matter of style they didn’t appreciate that’s one issue, but if it’s something lacking from the church’s offerings…that you should have…you may need to make some adjustments. Be willing to learn.
Attune your vision – Okay, it was obvious I was looking for an “A” word, but this is actually a good one. Attune means “to bring into harmony”. And that’s often necessary when people disappear from the church. Most likely their absence will affect others. You may need to realign people to the vision, especially when those leaving were previously and visibly committed. Assure people you are listening, and genuinely be listening, but in the end stay true to the God-given vision God has called you to lead.
Again, no one wants people to leave, especially if they are leaving upset with you or the church. But, it is a part of church leadership. Learning to process it will make us better equipped to minister to the ones who stay…and the new people God will bring.
Pastor, help me out with this post. What tips do you have for addressing this issue of what people leave the church?
(Update: the comments are already making this post better.)