Small Steps to Spiritual Growth

Yesterday I posted a simple way to implement change in an organization when the changes needed seem overwhelming.  You can read that post HERE.

Today I want to put a contextual spin on the issue for the area of spiritual growth.  I know lots of believers, especially early in their Christian walk, who think they should instantly have spiritual maturity shortly after being saved.  Spiritual growth is a process that takes years of discipleship.

If you want to mature in your faith, start with one spiritual discipline.  Master that discipline (or get better at it at least) and then move to another discipline.  For example, try to form a habit of regular church attendance. Then start reading your Bible everyday.  When that becomes a regular part of your day, begin to form a prayer list.  After a period of time you can start journaling.  Keep adding positive changes to your spiritual life, but only add one at a time.  See if that helps you grow without facing spiritual burnout.

What suggestions do you have towards spiritual growth?

How To Honor Your Pastor’s Wife

One of the toughest jobs in the church is that of being a pastor’s wife.  No doubt I have one of the best in Cheryl.  (I would say the best, but I have a co-pastor and he has an excellent one also!)  Cheryl has a full-time professional job, is an excellent mom and wife, but the demands on her as my wife are often overwhelming. Still she handles it with grace and a smile.

I want to help you know how to honor and protect your pastor’s wife.  Here I am not talking on behalf of Cheryl. She would never ask for this and frankly we are in the best church environment I have ever experienced as far as the way our staff and spouses are treated.  I know, however, because of my work with pastors outside of Grace that many pastor’s wives are facing burnout, a sense of loneliness, and often struggle even to come to church.

If you want to treat your pastor’s wife well:  (These may work equally well for the husband of a pastor or minister, but I can only speak from my perspective.)

  • Do not put too many expectations on the pastor’s wife.  She cannot be everywhere, at everything and know everyone’s name and family situation and still carry out her role in the home.
  • Do not expect her to take your side on an issue opposing her husband.  She will protect him as you would your spouse.
  • Protect the pastor’s wife from gossip.  She does not need to know the “prayer concerns” that are really just a way of spreading rumors.
  • Let her have a husband and enjoy her family time.  The pastor is pulled in many directions.  If you can limit your demands on his schedule to his normal working hours it will help the pastor’s wife have a family life also.
  • Include her without placing demands or expectations on her.  The pastor’s wife is often one of the loneliest women in the church.  She rarely knows whom to trust and often is excluded from times that are just for fun.
  • Never repeat what she says.  If the pastor’s wife happens to share information with you about the church or her personal life, keep it to yourself.  There will be temptation to share her words as “juicy news”, but you will honor her by remaining silent.
  • If your church really wants to honor the pastor’s wife, find ways to give her time away with her husband and/or family.  That is probably what she needs the most.
  • Pray for your pastor’s wife and family daily.

Feel free to give a shout-out to your pastor’s wife here on this post and share ways you can honor your pastor’s wife.  If you are a pastor or pastor’s wife, I would love to hear your thoughts.

Rock Your Community with Building 429

I’m excited about an upcoming concert in Nashville called Rock Your Community. The event will be held Friday, May 15, 2009 at Brentwood Baptist Church beginning at 7 PM. More details are available at the website: This event is sponsored by Community Outreach Ministries, which “strives to model the love of God and to meet the needs of the broken and wounded of Williamson County by providing a spiritual and pastoral presence in the community.”

Why am I excited about this? Because Grace Community Church’s own Jason Roy and Building 429 are a part of this event. Jason has one of the greatest hearts for worship and community investment of anyone I know. Jason’s wife Cortni and another Grace member are the two original organizers of Grace’s own Operation Serve annual event to reach out to our community. It is a privilege to watch Jason participate in true Kingdom-building!

I love the kind of ministry heart the Roy family has! Let’s support their efforts!

Guest Blog: Nate Edmondson (Hope Encouragement)

Get a little encouragement (actually a lot) from my son Nate’s latest blog entry:

Do you need reminding that change is coming and there is a purpose to life?

Thanks Nate!

(BTW, I have 2 great sons, but only 1 blogs so far. If the other starts to you will hear from him here too!)

Witnessing to Family and Friends

Jesus told them, “A prophet has little honor in his hometown, among his relatives, on the streets he played in as a child.” (Mark 6: 4 MSG)

Jesus experienced something I think most of us have at times as believers.  Sometimes the hardest people to witness to are those we love and know the most.  I know countless pastors who have lost siblings, parents and childhood friends, but have limited success witnessing to them.  It’s been a struggle for me at times also.

Do you share this experience?  Is it hardest for you to witness to your own family and friends?  Why do you think that’s the case?  How do you combat the fear or do you?

Do You Love Your Church?

The churches in the province of Asia send you greetings. Aquila and Priscilla greet you warmly in the Lord, and so does the church that meets at their house. All the brothers here send you greetings. Greet one another with a holy kiss. 1 Corinthians 16:19-20 NIV

My message today at Grace Community Church is from the book of Acts.  It is evident from Paul’s writings that he loved the local church. The local church is a huge part of the New Testament. The Book of Acts alone chronicles the history of its foundation.

Years ago I participated in a one-day medical clinic in a slum near Rio, Brazil that remains nameless, because the government has yet to name it. It is literally built on the side of a steep mountain. Simply walking to the clinic was a huge task. My job was to evangelize the crowd waiting to see the doctors. My translator and I had several decisions to accept Christ, but remarkably we also encountered a good number of professing believers. When I told them that the desire was to eventually start a church in the slum, they were ecstatic. One lady began to jump up and down with excitement. They wanted a local church!

The reaction of these people to the hopes of a local church being established caused me to wonder. How excited do most of us get at the prospect of attending church?   In some cities in the United States there are more churches than in some countries in total, yet statistics tell us that 80% of the people are not in church on a given Sunday. Announce that you are going to open an evangelical church in America today and, while it will attract some attention (frankly some positive and some negative), I doubt many will jump up and down with excitement.

What is the difference? Could it be that we take our hundreds of local church options for granted? I do not know the reasons we fail to be as excited about churches as in some places in other countries I have visited, but I do believe God has a plan for the local church. It is still His method for reaching the lost and hurting, building disciples and sending workers out to develop His kingdom.

Do you love the church?    Who do you know that needs an invitation to join what God is doing in your church?  Could God be expecting you to invite them?

Passion Play Via Twitter?

Technology is being used in incredible ways for Kingdom growth. It seems this Easter I have seen much more advertising for “Internet Church”. Several leading churches are encouraging people to check out the Internet this Easter. That’s not new, but it seems more prevalent this year than ever.

As most who follow this blog know, I’m kind of into Twitter. Twitter has provided me with some incredible connections and I have truly learned from this new form of social networking. In fact, I seem to find out breaking news from Twitter faster than any other source. It is where I find most of the blogs I read, ministry resources, and discover cutting-edge leaders and insights. I highly recommend Twitter.

With as much as I believe in using whatever resources are available, I’m still trying to figure out the latest Twitter ministry I heard about today. A New York church is launching the first ever Passion play via Twitter. Read the article HERE.

What do you think? Can Twitter do justice, in 140 characters or less, to this timeless story? Just curious. Is this a good thing or does this one cross the line in your opinion? (Wherever the line is these days, of course.)

Matt Chandler: Jesus Wants The Rose


This blew me away when I saw it the first time.  This probably captures my heart for the church and church planting as well as anything I could say.  My heart breaks for the person who so desperately needs the Gospel, but has been bruised or even rejected by the church.  Christ would never reject you. In fact, He was rejected so that you could be received.  He loves you that much.

Isaiah 53

He grew up before him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not.  Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered him stricken by God, smitten by him, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way; and the LORD has laid on him the iniquity of us all. He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth. By oppression and judgment he was taken away. And who can speak of his descendants? For he was cut off from the land of the living; of my people he was stricken.He was assigned a grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death, though he had done no violence, to crush him and cause him to suffer, and though the LORD makes his life a guilt offering, he will see his offspring and prolong his days, and the will of the LORD will prosper in his hand. After the suffering of his soul, he will see the light [of life] and be satisfied; by his knowledge my righteous servant will justify many, and he will bear their iniquities.Therefore I will give him a portion among the great, with the strong, because he poured out his life unto death, and was numbered with the transgressors. For he bore the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors. that we should desire him.  He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, for the transgression nor was any deceit in his mouth. Yet it was the LORD’s will and he will divide the spoils

By the way, if your life is messed up, if you think you’ve made too many mistakes in life, we have a seat for you at Grace Community Church.  Jesus loves you and so do we.

Inspiration from a 200 Year Old Church

Our church is 3 ½ years old. We have learned a lot in that time, but each day we realize we have so much more to learn.  We usually look to newer churches to get inspiration, simply because they are closest to doing things the way we do them, but recently I was reminded that there are things I should learn from much older churches.

Spring Creek Baptist Church in Clarksville, Tennessee recently celebrated their 200th anniversary.  In the last five years they have had incredible percentage growth.  This is an “old country church”, as some might refer to them, who has adapted to culture while staying true to the original vision of the past.  They have planted dozens of churches in their 200-year history, including the large First Baptist Church where I grew up and still love today.  In a way, Spring Creek has played a role in my spiritual development and what I do at Grace Community Church by planting FBC, where I was saved, baptized, married and gained so much experience in ministry.

I recently asked their music minister the secret of their continued success. He said, “Our motto is to keep things Real and Relevant”.  Also we are not always looking backwards, but moving forward.”  Huh?  That sounds like something our 3 ½ year old church might say.

Thanks Spring Creek for that inspiration!  Keep it real and relevant for the next 200 years!

Reflections on Losing a Staff Member

Daniel Doss, the amazing worship leader who helped launch Grace Community Church, announced to the church this week that he is leaving to help plant another church.  Daniel has one of the most gifted voices I have ever heard and could easily find a position anywhere, including staying at Grace, but he is excited to be pursuing the dream of planting again (it does get in your blood) with a high school friend in Northern Indiana.  Daniel is our first full-time staff member to leave and we are surely going to miss his and Emily’s energy and passion for what we are doing at Grace.

I have some random thoughts about losing Daniel as a staff member:

  • Daniel has prepared us well for his absence.  He has assembled an incredible team of “worshipping artists” (his term) and they are ready to continue the excellence Daniel began.
  • We were proactive in this situation.  Knowing Daniel’s talent level and his continued passion for Kingdom-building, we knew we could lose Daniel someday if God presented him another opportunity to do this again.  Two years ago we hired another worship leader, equally talented, but with different skills, to co-lead with Daniel.  Michael has been and is ready to lead the deal.  It was sometimes difficult explaining why we had two highly talented leaders in the area of worship, but now we are thankful for the risk we took in making that happen.
  • I told Daniel when he first told me he was sensing a call to this new plant that I am a forward thinking person.  I truly believe a vision must be about more than a personality, so we will continue to the vision Daniel helped us launch.  Michael Higdon is talented and for all practical purposes assumed leadership of Sunday mornings several months ago. He previously led worship for over 20,000 per weekend at Fellowship Church in Dallas, so he is well equipped to continue the excellence Grace is known for in worship.
  • Daniel is leaving on good terms with the church, his worship team, and even Emily’s family who live in Clarksville.   We are sad to lose them, but can rejoice with them in this new venture.  I hope every staff exit we have in the years to come can happen this smoothly.
  • Daniel and Emily Doss will always be a part of Grace Community Church.  I’m fully convinced they will still be connected to us in some way years from now.  They are family to us as a staff and to the church.  Our paths will continue to cross in the years to come.

Daniel and Emily, Cheryl and I love you both.  We admire your hearts, your passion for life, ministry and others, and your faith in taking risks.  Thanks for the difference you have made in our life.

(PS.  I’m hoping Daniel and Emily won’t mind that I grabbed one of their pictures.  I found it on Google images.  They are quite popular there!)