Secret Santa: CBS On The Road Video

Here’s a CBS News story of a secret Santa. I’ve seen reports of this businessman man’s way of spreading Christmas cheer before, but I loved the outcome on this one. (You’ll watch a 30 second advertisement, then the 3 minute video.)

I also love the news segment by Steve Hartman called “On the Road”. You can read or watch more of his Secret Santa stories HERE.

True Confession: Life as an Introvert

Here’s a quick confession. I’ve told readers before that I’m an introvert. That’s not the confession. I’ve learned lots of pastors are introverted.

In fact, I can appear fairly extroverted at times.

When I have a definite purpose and responsibility, I can be the most extroverted person in the room. On Sunday, for example, I work the crowd, shake tons of hands, and talk non-stop. It’s hard for people to believe I’m really an introvert. I go home exhausted on Sunday and need hours to recuperate. When I’m speaking at a conference, I work the room well.

Unfortunately, my introverted personality kicks in when I’m simply attending a gathering, especially with people I may not know.

Here’s the confession:

I’ve missed a few social gatherings due to my introversion.

Not only that…it gets worse…

There have been times, if attendance is optional, and Cheryl isn’t with me, I’ve intended to go to a social gathering, driven to the event, pulled into the parking lot, sat in my car for a few minutes, decided to drive around a little while, never went in…and missed the party completely. I skipped the fun, the opportunity to connect, and only left disappointed in myself.

Don’t misunderstand. I love people. I love meeting new people. I’m always glad when I go. I simply can’t push through the introversion sometimes.

This time of year, it’s easy for me to allow my introversion to keep me from enjoying the season.

Here’s my advice…

This is to me and anyone else who will admit to being this introverted:

Push through the introversion. Put your party hat on and do the social gathering. You’ll be glad once you did. I always am.

Anyone else brave enough to admit being this introverted?

By the way, you may want to read these posts about my introversion:

7 Pitfalls of Being an Introverted Pastor

How an Introvert Handles Awkward Situations

7 Ways Extroverts Can Help Introverts

7 Ways I Work with Introversion to Protect My Ministry

Christmas Flash Mob

According to YouTube, Journey of Faith performed a Christmas “Flash Mob” at the South Bay Galleria in Redondo Beach on December 18, much to the delight of local shoppers.

One of the best I’ve ever seen…don’t miss the ending.

Ever been a part of a flash mob? Would you like to be?

(Thanks to @MaxLucado for pointing me to this one.)

I’m like a girl when it comes to football…

The title of this post may get me in trouble, but there’s a point behind it. In marriage conferences, I used to teach the difference in the way a man and a woman develop respect and love. Basically, for my purposes here, men can usually separate their respect for someone based on their abilities in a certain area.

So a man may be able to respect a businessman for his skills in business, even if that man is a lousy husband and father. For a woman, because she typically develops her respect as much from her heart as from what she knows about someone, if the businessman is a lousy husband, she will have a harder time respecting him professionally. (I realize that’s a generalized statement, but I’ve seen it many times. I may post more about that concept in the future.)

When it comes to football…I’m a girl…

  • If a coach cheats on his wife…
  • If a player is a poor role model…
  • If a team is disrespectful to other teams…

I’m less likely to respect…and ultimately support…that team…

But…

  • If a coach is a great man of character…
  • If a player carries himself with class…
  • If a team is professional even in losing…

That coach/player/team likely has me cheering for them when they play.

I know…it should just be about the game, my favorite team, etc., but I have a hard time separating the two. I see guys choose their “favorite” player who in my book is a poor role model for anyone, regardless of skills. My loyalty to a team usually fades if the coach has lousy character and grows if he is a man of good character, and likewise for a player. I may be able to admire the skills of the player, but I can not get behind them as a player if they can’t be a good role model. That’s why I’m such a Tim Tebow fan (watch THIS VIDEO I posted about him yesterday) and why I was always a Tony Dungy fan.

Go ahead. Make fun of me. Even call me a girl if you want. If your favorite coach or player is a jerk…like them…be loyal in spite of that fact…but I’ll be cheering on the other side.

Anyone else like me?

Good Leader: Let Them See You Sweat

Never let them see you sweat…

Or, so they say…

Apparently the phrase, “Never let them see you sweat” came from a 1984 Gillette company deodorant commercial. I looked it up so I could give proper credit in this post.

It’s a great phrase. When I was younger, it was a popular cultural saying in some circles. The idea was used for much more than a deodorant. If you want to really be a man…never let them see you sweat. If you want to display courage…never let them see you sweat. If you want to lead well…never let them see you sweat.

Sadly, that phrase or mindset has carried over to some schools of leadership today. Many leaders are afraid to be discovered for their inefficiencies and shortcomings.

Here’s the bottom line with leading well today:

You better let them see you sweat!

Leadership today is more about being real with people. It’s admitting failure. It’s being transparent about weaknesses. It’s not covering up flaws…it’s exposing them so others can learn from them. It’s being willing to say, “I don’t know how” or “That’s not my area of expertise.” It’s even a willingness to say, “I’m afraid” or “I need help with this one”.

Here’s my advice: Wear your deodorant for underarm protection, but when it comes to authentic leadership, it’s all about the sweat! Let me be clear. I’m not suggesting you don’t try your hardest, you don’t put your best foot forward, or that you constantly complain about not being able to keep up. People want to follow confident, capable leaders. I am suggesting you don’t try to be someone you are not and be honest about who you really are. Learning the difference is part of being a good leader these days.

What are some ways you know a leader is authentic these days?

The Top 50 Television Shows of All Time

I stumbled on a list of the “top 50 television shows” of all time. It’s not my list. It’s a Wikipedia list, so i understand it’s not scientific, but it gives us something to talk about.

Here is a list of the top 50 shows of all time:

Seinfeld (NBC)
I Love Lucy (CBS)
The Honeymooners (CBS)
All in the Family (CBS)
The Sopranos (HBO)
60 Minutes (CBS)
Late Show with David Letterman (CBS)
The Simpsons (Fox)
The Andy Griffith Show (CBS)
Saturday Night Live (NBC)
The Mary Tyler Moore Show (CBS)
The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson (NBC)
The Dick Van Dyke Show (CBS)
Hill Street Blues (NBC)
The Ed Sullivan Show (CBS)
The Carol Burnett Show (CBS)
Today (NBC)
Cheers (NBC)
thirtysomething (ABC)
St. Elsewhere (NBC)
Friends (NBC)
ER (NBC)
Nightline (ABC)
Law & Order (NBC)
M*A*S*H (CBS)
The Twilight Zone] (CBS)
Sesame Street (PBS)
The Cosby Show (NBC)
Donahue (syndicated)
Your Show of Shows (NBC)
The Defenders (CBS)
An American Family (PBS)
Playhouse 90 (CBS)
Frasier (NBC)
Roseanne (ABC)
The Fugitive (ABC)
The X-Files (Fox)
The Larry Sanders Show (HBO)
The Rockford Files (NBC)
Gunsmoke (CBS)
Buffy the Vampire Slayer (WB/UPN)
Rowan & Martin’s Laugh-In (NBC)
Bonanza (NBC)
The Bob Newhart Show (CBS)
Twin Peaks (ABC)
Star Trek: The Next Generation (syndicated)
Rocky and His Friends (ABC)
Taxi (ABC/NBC)
The Oprah Winfrey Show (syndicated)
Bewitched (ABC)

I agree with many on this list. I miss many of these shows. Wow! Some of the memories.

What shows is this list missing, in your opinion? Which shows bring back the most memories…which do you miss…on this list?

If I could do my 20′s over again…

Back in September my friend Greg Darley, with BackStage Leadership, asked me to do a guest for the BackStage Leadership blog. He gave me the title…If I could do my 20′s over again…

Here’s an excerpt from that post:

I’m 47. I’ve done a few things right and a lot of things wrong. I spend a lot of time these days, for whatever reason, reflecting on days past and wondering what life would be like had I reacted in different ways earlier in life.

If I had my 20′s to do over again, for example, I would:

Start saving 10% of my income – I was already a tither, but I wish I had tithed for my future also. I’d be a wealthy man today, in spite of some financial setbacks I’ve had in life.

Have a long-term vision for my life – I’ve learned now that where I want to end up is greatly determined by what I do. It sounds like common sense, but at that time I wasn’t thinking that far down the road.

You’ll find the rest of my advice HERE:

What would you do differently if you could repeat your 20′s?