7 Tensions Every Leader Faces – Everyday

Being a leader isn’t easy. With every decision a leader makes someone is happy – and someone is not. And, one often misunderstood reason leadership is challenging is the tension every leader feels when making decisions.

And, every leader experiences some of this tension – every single day.

In fact, learning to balance the tensions of leadership may determine the level of success a leader can sustain. If a leader leans too far one direction – their leadership effectiveness suffers.

Let me share some examples of these everyday type leadership tensions.

Here are 7 everyday tensions of every leader:

Displaying confidence without being arrogant.

People want to follow a confident leader, but pride is a repulsive trait. I feel this tension especially when I’m leading on a new team or with new people on the team. I’ve had some experience. I’ve learned a few things. I need them to understand there are reasons for them to follow my leadership, but, I can’t unpack my resume for them immediate either.

Making bold decisions while building collaboration.

I personally experience this one most every meeting we have as a team. I can almost always sense the room waiting for my opinion. And, many times I realize we won’t move forward until I weigh in to the matter. But, good leadership involves collaboration. I’m not the only voice – and many times not the smartest voice in the process. If I have the only answer no one will participate, but if I never have any answers no one will want to follow my leadership.

Showing strength while displaying compassion.

People want to follow leadership who generally care for them as individuals. Compassion for those who can’t help themselves is an attractive leadership quality. The best leaders I know have a concern for others. But, no one wants compassion to be translated as weakness. There are times a leader has to stand strong for they know is right thing – even when everyone can’t fully understand yet what they are doing or why.

Controlling energy towards a vision but allowing individuals to chart their path.

Good leaders create healthy structure which can be managed for effectiveness, but, at the same time, the best discoveries often come when people are allowed the freedom to create, explore, and “break the rules”.

Celebrating victory while not resting on current success.

Another way to say this one would be: Honoring history while pushing towards the future. And, this one is hard for me. I’m ready and wired for “next”. I like to keep moving. Sitting still is one of my hardest disciplines. I know, however, there are those on our team who can’t adequately move forward until we’ve recognized our current success. They need to celebrate. They need to reflect. And, continually balancing this tension is good for the team.

Learning from other leaders but being who you were uniquely wired to be.

I’m a huge proponent of wisdom-seeking. I think we should always have a mentor. And, usually more than one. I read. I attend conferences. I want to learn best practices and from the experiences of others. But, there’s a tension of attempting to duplicate another person’s success and being exactly who God has called me to be. God has not called me to preach like Andy Stanley – He’s called me to preach like me. He’s not called me to lead like John Maxwell – but, to lead like I would lead. This doesn’t mean I can’t learn from both of these – and can and have – but I cannot forget God has uniquely wired me – and he has uniquely wired you.

Spending time with people versus completing tasks.

This may personally be the most common tension for of the ones listed. Leadership is people. Without people – without getting to know them, earning their trust, investing in them and showing them we care – leadership will never be effective. But, I have work to do also. Sunday keeps coming, there are outside demands on my time, I have emails, phone calls, texts and visits with people who I’m not necessarily leading. I have paperwork to do. (I hate paperwork by the way!) The real work of a leader is people – and, yet the work must get done.

Tension. Leaders, do you feel it? At some level, don’t you feel it everyday.

I realize I’ve only exposed the problem, without a lot of solutions. And, honestly, your solution will be different from mine. But, I think the answer isn’t necessarily an easy to define solution for each of these tensions. It is recognizing they exist and continually seeking to live within them. And, when one side of the tension is getting more attention than the other – fighting to get back to a better balance of tensions.

Do you have another to add?

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9 thoughts on “7 Tensions Every Leader Faces – Everyday

  1. — Being task oriented without burning relations with the team members
    — Working towards 'being respected rather than being liked' as a leader
    — Always listening to others but not compromising either.