7 Specific Suggestions for Dealing with Stress in Life and Leadership

A tired woman sitting on the desk

Stress is very much a part of life. Having traveled to many cultures, however, I think we may sometimes “specialize” in stress in America. It almost seems we look for ways to bring more stress in our life.

Yesterday, I shared some general ways to deal with stress.

Today I’m following up with some specific things I do, which help me deal daily with stress.

You can read yesterday’s post HERE.

Here are 7 specific tips I have for handling stress:

Plan each day.

I know some will resist this because of the word I’m about to use – but, get a checklist for every day. I think  we should begin each day with a predetermined win for the day – and for me, this involves completing a realistic checklist of accomplishments. Ask yourself – what do I need to complete today?  Learn to plan what you can actually do. Don’t overcommit. As you get more disciplined, you can add some “stretch” items to the checklist. I try to do the harder ones or the ones I least enjoy doing first – so I get them out of the way. Complete an item or move it to another day. Keep in mind, if you keep moving items you are either not making good use of your time or planning too much for effectiveness. The more you plan days you can complete the less stressful individual days will be and, ultimately, the more effective you will be. 

Switch projects.

When I’m really stressed about a specific project, I like to take a break and work on something different – at this point, hopefully something I can easily complete. Now obviously this can become a problem if you never complete the stressful project, so use it as a help not a crutch. Sometimes, however, the energy created in making progress on another project will fuel you for the stressful project.

Review your time commitments.

This is huge. We tend to over-commit. Monitor all the ways you spend time. If you were going to create a monetary budget for the first time, financial planners would have you track everywhere you spend money. The same principle applies here. If you’re always stressed chances are good you have a time management issue on your hands. There are often things we continually do which bring us the most stress. Sometimes you may be able to delegate them – other times you may not even need to do them – and, at times you simply need to quit procrastinating, knock them out, and move on to something else. Figure out the problem areas, begin to address them with a good, disciplined approach, and you’ll decrease stress.

Practice redirection of thoughts.

Stress is often caused because we let our minds think about the wrong things. We have a natural bent towards worry, which always leads to stress. Some of us are more prone to this than others. When stress hits you – read a Psalm. Listen to a song. Recite poetry. Look at pictures of your family. Pray – (Because, ultimately, God is in control and you can trust Him.) Turn off the news and social media, which tends to add to stress most of the time. Take a moment to reflect on something of greater value in your life than the thoughts which are causing the most stress. When it’s people who are causing me stress, I sometimes pull out my “encouragement file”. Every leader needs one. These are encouraging notes or emails people have sent me through the years. Changing your thought process often lowers your stress. 

Move your body.

Stress seems to germinate in my mind when I am still for too long. Take a walk. Stretch your muscles. Head to the gym. I have found the more the stressful season the more exercise I need – even during the middle of a busy day. When I come back from time in physical activity I’m more energized to attack stress and win!

Talk to someone who listens and cares.

Sometimes just walking to another office and venting – or phoning a friend – will relieve a stressful moment. Others, especially those who know me and care for me, can see things from a perspective I can’t see. They can speak into my day. They can help redirect my focus and give me a fresh start. Again, I mention prayer. We have to learn how to communicate with our Creator. One of my friends always says, “Prayer doesn’t always change my circumstances, but prayer always changes me.” 

Stop and dream.

This may sound corny, but it works. What’s something you can look forward to? It may be at the end of the day, the weekend, or a year down the road. Knowing there’s something to look forward to beyond today helps me handle current stress. As a husband, I’m always intentionally trying to have a mini-vacation on the calendar for my wife and me. I know she and I both need it in our marriage to handle the daily stress grind. Again, don’t let this become a distraction to progress. You’ll have to discipline yourself back to the task at hand, but,in my experience, typically people who stress the most (people like me) are wired for progress more than process. We stress when things aren’t getting done fast enough and we tend to overcommit. I’m not sure our basic wiring will ever change, but sometimes, in the midst of a stressful moment, stopping to “smell the roses” lowers our stress level, gives us more fuel for the journey, and makes us more efficient – and more happy!

Those are a few tips. I hope they are helpful. 

What tips could you add?

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15 thoughts on “7 Specific Suggestions for Dealing with Stress in Life and Leadership

  1. One thing that helps me is my box. You see, what’s in my box are the things I have some control over. If something comes along that’s out of my box, I remind myself that it’s not in my box. I’m going to do the best job I can with what is in my box, and after that, it becomes someone else’s problem. Really helpful when you consider all the pressures they put on us teachers. It’s one of the highest ranking jobs in terms of stress because they keep asking us to control things that are out of our box. So I do my best, and when my best isn’t good enough, well, that’s out of my box too. Trust in the Lord!

  2. Ron, this article is just perfect, considering the stressful situations most of us have to deal with day after day. I almost forgot how important it is to take a break from time to time and plan a vacation. Not to mention that family time needs to be quality time, so we need to think about it before we take too many tasks. Awesome article!

  3. Ron, thanks for the posts on handling stress!

    I've written some posts over the last 5 months about my need to handle stress better. Specific things I'm *trying* to build into my life: Time with God, exercise, rest, play, reading, and good nutrition (as well as some relaxation techniques: deep breathing, chewing sugar free gum, drinking orange juice, etc.)

    Thanks again!

  4. Thanks for a great follow-up to yesterday's post. As an addition, I have an accountability partner who also deals with high stress due to overcommitment (as I do). Our intentional policy in our partnership is to do three things daily: 1) send each other a word/verse/story of encouragement and 2) say a quick prayer for one another and 3) weekly check in to make sure we are each meeting our goals and not falling behind in our work.

  5. Sometimes people get stressed out about a certain situation or circumstance they face that is beyond their control. One of the tips that I use in such instances is to generate a worst case scenario outcome to the problem. In most cases, the worst case scenario outcome is not that bad and is something that I can deal with, should it happen. It helps to calm me down, so I can begin working backwards from the worst case scenario so that I can take action to avoid that worst case scenario. In most cases, I never even get close to it. Generally, I find that I blew the situation out of proportion because I panicked and stressed out about the situation.