I never had a daughter. I have a great daughter-in-law, and she has a special relationship with her dad, but I never got to raise a girl. I missed out, didn’t I?
But, I know a few grown girls. I’ve witnessed scars. All women have a scar of some kind. And, I know a dad plays a role. An important role. And, one that, if the right foundation is set, can help a girl avoid, or at least recover, from many of the scars life naturally will bring. Even when a girl becomes a woman.
And, it’s made me question what I would do if I were raising a girl today. These are scary times. Our children need us more than ever. I would want to be wise and intentional.
Here are 10 things I’d do if I were raising a daughter today:
I would tell her daily how beautiful she is and that I love her unconditionally.
I would let her know, in word and actions, that she is more important than my job, my hobbies, and my iPhone.
I would dance with her, take her on regular dates, and hold her hand frequently.
I would hold the standard high for her, but instill in her the belief that I’m here for her, regardless of what she does wrong, and that nothing she does could ever cause me to turn my back on her.
I would let her hear me pray for her daily and strive to live a godly life, after which she could model…and trust to be consistent.
I would let her know my wife was the most important woman in the world to me and encourage her to wait for a man willing to say the same.
I would get her self-defense training. And, teach her where to kick.
I would encourage her talents and abilities and remind her that God is going to use her in incredible ways.
I would help her understand that every boy’s intentions are not honorable and that she is worthy of and should always demand respect.
I would consistently remind her she has what it takes to do anything she sets her mind to do and to settle for nothing less than her best.