Decision Remorse

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I was talking with a young leader. Recently he had made a pretty major decision. He prayed about it. Consulted wise counsel. Acted methodically. I walked with him through the process and was impressed with the way he handled things.

The decision was made. He communicated it to key leaders and the steps were in place to move forward.

Then reality sank in.

It was a big decision. It will alter things. People will be impacted by this decision.

His mind started to play tricks with him. He questioned himself.

What if I made the wrong decision?
What if there was a better decision.
What if I was wrong?

He began to panic.

I was glad we were still talking at this point in the process. I was able to tell him a principle I learned years ago in leadership.

Sometimes we suffer from decision remorse.

Just like buyers remorse…what happens when you buy something and then temporarily wish you hadn’t…leaders often suffer from decision remorse. With every major decision in life or leadership, decision remorse is a possibility.

It’s a temporary setback. A momentary lapse. A gut check reality that makes you question your decision. It’s natural to question yourself at this point. You’ve invested a lot of energy on a major decision and now you are faced with making it happen.

Trust the process. Trust your instinct. Trust the system of decision-making you used.

Don’t allow decision remorse to keep you from celebrating the joy of what’s to come.

That doesn’t mean you don’t evaluate. It doesn’t mean you won’t make bad decisions. But, if you strategically and methodically made the decision, now is the time to implement.

Have you ever struggled with decision remorse?

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8 thoughts on “Decision Remorse

  1. Ron, thanks for sharing this post.

    I really appreciate and believe in your statement, "Trust the process. Trust your instinct. Trust the system of decision-making you used." I agree that we do need to "trust" the process, instinct, and system we have in place.

    Tough decisions are hard because they are tough decisions. And, they probably should be hard.

    As leaders, it is important that we trust the process we have set up and hope (and pray) that everything works out.

    Thanks for sharing your insights and thoughts on decisions.

  2. I've definitely seen this take shape in my life! I think we all have. Sometimes we need to recognize that we cannot always make the right decisions, but we can always work to make our choices the right ones. Moving forward with confidence is not always easy, but it is definitely necessary.

  3. When dealing with the remorse, I often wonder why I even have the ability to decide! When dealing with others who are going through it, I am impressed with them. The remorse shows they care. It tells of their commitment to do more than " just enought". It bespeaks of their willingness to do their best. I would be greatly concerned if they make a decision of this nature and not have remorse!
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