I sat with a man recently. He’s lost his job, can’t find another and it’s having an impact on his marriage. I quickly diagnosed his real problem. Not that I’m an expert in diagnosing problems, but I’ve seen this one many times and his language made it clear.
He said things like, “I used to be able to…” and “I don’t think I’ll ever…”. It seemed clear to me, so I took a chance and told him my theory. He was believing a lie.
If you’re a man, at some point, you’ve probably believed one of these lies:
I will fail if I try
I don’t measure up
I am not as good as he is
I don’t have what it takes
I can’t win
I can do this and no one will know
I can’t be honest about that
I’m the only one who has ever struggled with this
I can’t recover from that
I can’t be the spiritual leader of my home
If you’ve been hit with a setback, if you are licking your wounds from a failure, if you simply can’t find your way right now, you may be allowing the enemy, the world or your own mind to feed you some lies.
One way out of the “funk” may be to insert some truth into your life. (Look up these verses as a start: Philippians 4:13, Joshua 1:9, 1 John 4:4, Psalm 121:1.)
Which of the above lies are you currently believing?
You might also read the companion post, 10 Lies Women Believe.