A Principle About Relationships That Can Change Your Life

Here’s one principle that can dramatically improve every relationship in your life.

Wow! What an emphatic statement, but it’s true.

Learn this principle and place it into practice and you’ll see what I mean.

Here’s the principle…

Are you ready?

Write this down:

People don’t know what they don’t know.

I know what you’re thinking. That’s big.

It’s not just big…it’s…


Of course, it takes some time to learn and begin to let this principle take shape in your life, but the reward is worth it.

If an employee isn’t meeting your expectations…tell him or her…He or she may think you’re completely pleased if you’ve not said anything.

If your spouse is continually hurting your feelings…let it be known…Chances are it’s not done on purpose but out of ignorance.

If a child says the wrong thing at the wrong time…teach them from the experience…Someone had to teach you.

If a boss seems completely out of touch with reality…guess what? He or she probably is to a point and needs others to share what they know.

If a new believer doesn’t quite measure up to the standard you’ve set for a believer…it may be they don’t hold or even know the same standard…

Insert your own scenario, but before you get upset with someone…before you lose your patience…before you hold it against them…before you give up on a relationship…


People don’t know what they don’t know.

How could implementing this principle change some relationships in your life?

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7 thoughts on “A Principle About Relationships That Can Change Your Life

  1. So true, Ron. Assumptions and expectations are potential relationship killers when clear, open communication isn't there. I love the previous comment about asking others what we may not know. So many times I've had to learn the hard way that my behavior or words were not having the kind of influence I had hoped for.

  2. I love the one about "new believers". In fact, one could take that a step further and say, "… it may be that you don't know what God's standard is". The biggest breakthrough I ever had in my own walk was when the Holy Spirit said, "your Salvation does not depend on someone else's estimation".

  3. Great post!

    What about implementing this principle this way…take the reverse approach. Go to your spouse and ask what you don't know. Go to those you work with and ask what you don't know. Do the same with your children!

    I am sure there are many things I am doing that I could stop doing if I knew it was hurting someone I love and care about. In fact, just last night, my daughter (12) told me she hates sarcasm. Without even realizing it, I had been using it so much it finally pushed her to tell me she hated it! I wish I had known how much it was affecting her!

    Though just one example, it was a powerful one for me. Thanks, Ron, for the principle I can implement to find more of these examples.

    I think I will start with my wife…