10 Scenarios to Help Determine if it’s Time to Quit

How do you know when it’s time to leave an organization?

I recently wrote “Leave Before You Have To”. Sometimes it’s more damaging to stay than to quit.

I am asked frequently to help someone think through the decision of whether to stay or to leave their current position. Obviously, if God calls you to stay somewhere, you should stay, but many times, in my experience, we stay for the wrong reasons. The following are some times to consider leaving. I think these may apply if you are in a church or business setting. This post is expanded from a post I wrote a few years ago. It developed from a conversation with a church staff member suffering under tremendously poor leadership and other questionable activities. I’ve continued to encounter situations where a person is wrestling with whether it’s time to leave their position.

Here are 10 scenarios that may indicate it’s time to leave:

When God has freed you from your commitment - I believe God’s call is ultimately to the person of Christ, not to a place, but there are times God has us in a specific place for a specific season. You may only be a leader for a season. (Read about that HERE.) If you sense God has released you to pursue other positions, it may soon be time to leave.

When your work is finished - It could be that you’ve accomplished what you were sent to accomplish. I once wrote about leaders needing a challenge to stay motivated. If you have become too comfortable, it may be a time God is preparing you for a change…a new challenge. (Read more of that thought HERE.)

When your heart has left the organization or it’s vision – Sometimes you need to reenergize your heart. If God hasn’t released you from the position, for example, then you have to find a way to make it work. In many cases, however, you are freed to move elsewhere. You shouldn’t harm the organization by staying when you no longer have a heart for the mission. If you’ve quit having fun, don’t keep making life miserable for everyone else.

When you can’t support the leadership - You need to know where the power rests in the organization. It’s nearly impossible to change the organization working against an ingrained power structure. Ask yourself, “If it’s always going to be like this here, would I be content staying?”

When your family or personal life is suffering, because of the demands of the organization - If you have to neglect one of them, your career or your family, in twenty years, which do you hope it will have been?

When your mind starts working against the mission of the organization – If you would rather see the place fail than succeed; it could clearly be time to go.

When your relationship with co-workers or leadership is damaged beyond repair - You should try to work out these differences, you certainly should offer grace and forgiveness, but when it is obvious a professional relationship cannot be mended, it may be time to move forward with your life.

If the organization or senior leadership is venturing into immoral or unethical practices – Don’t get caught in the next news scandal.

When you find yourself physically ill if work crosses your mind – On the weekend (or when you are off work), if the emotional stress is greater than you can handle, you may need to protect your health over your career.

When you don’t have the energy to pull your own weight - For whatever reason, whether it’s because you’ve given up, you are bored, or just can’t keep up the pace, if you are dragging down productivity and you don’t have the incentive to improve, perhaps it’s time for a change in your workplace.

Please understand. I’m not a quitter. God may leave you in the miserable environment for a season…or even years. He certainly did for some of the men and women in Bible history. I also believe that the times described above are not always to be viewed as negative experiences. Sometimes God uses the difficult experiences of life to draw us to Him and to open our eyes to the next opportunity He has for us. I would have never made some of the moves I’ve made in life…that I know now were of God…had it not been for my miserable situation at the time.

At the same time, I believe there are times a false sense of loyalty, co-dependency or irrational fear keeps us from moving forward even though God is not holding us to the position. In my opinion, protecting our heart is more important than protecting a professional position. I wouldn’t make a decision solely on just one of these scenarios, but if numerous of them apply…

Consider this list as it compares to your situation, then ask God to confirm in your heart:

  • If you are free to leave.
  • If now is the time.

What would you add to my list?

You might also read: Discerning a Change in Ministry Assignment

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20 thoughts on “10 Scenarios to Help Determine if it’s Time to Quit

  1. I’m a college student getting ready to make a big transition. I’m thankful for this blog post. It reminded me that sometimes it’s okay to move on.

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  3. Sure is. Thanks so much for the prayers! She knows she's not where God wants her but she has no idea where that place may be. Her passion actually lies in Singles ministry. She's very active in the one at her church. =)

  4. My mom is in this very position. Most of those scenarios apply to her. She's a teacher and it's getting more stressful by the day. She's taught for 16 years but since she got a late start in her career retirement is a way off. She's miserable but she is only staying for the paycheck. (which isn't much mind you). She's a single parent to me and my sister. We're both grown but still have yet to get out on our own. It pains me to see her hurting like this. She can't afford to just quit but something has to give…..

  5. Ron,
    This is excellent. So many pastors are afraid to leave because they may be branded by the former church as a traitor or disloyal. They are miserable but feel trapped and guilty for thinking about leaving. Never let a human being (sr. pastor or others) keep you from where God is leading.

  6. What's the balance from not just running away and not really solving your own issues or transition in a way that brings health to you and the organization that you're leaving?

    • Well, as any balance, there's no easy way, but you ask a good question. I think seeking Christ and following the heart is critical here.

  7. Thank you so much Ron. I recently resigned from a Team Leader position in a secular company that I've been involved with since it started up. Six of the reasons you listed are on my list for leaving, but I have been struggling to put this into words. Now that I can name them, I have no doubt that this will help me to process this.

  8. Ron,
    I left an organization that I was a huge part of about four years ago and I met about 9 out of 10 of the scenarios you listed. Reading this just helped me process that difficult time in my life a lot further.