The Way a Leader is Expected to Respond…

Have you learned a valuable principle about your leadership?

The way others expect you to respond often determines the way they respond to you.

  • If they expect you to respond in anger…they’ll dance around an issue, afraid to confront…
  • If they expect you to respond defensively…they’ll only bring you the proven answers…refusing to take risks…
  • If they expect you to respond with condemnation…they’ll be tempted to only share part of the story…maybe none at all…
  • If they expect you to respond negatively…they’ll hold back some of their best ideas…afraid you’ll crush them…

However…

  • If they expect you to respond with understanding…they’ll be more likely to offer their opinions…
  • If they expect you to respond with in a supportive way…they’ll be more likely to share their dreams…
  • If they expect you to respond with an open mind…they’ll be more likely to brainstorm with you rather than without you…
  • If they expect you to respond with grace…they’ll be more likely to share the good, the bad and the ugly…

Leaders, how do others expect you to respond?

Fair or not…as a leader, the response others expect from you may help determine the way others respond to you. More importantly, however, is that ultimately that response helps determine the health of the team or organization.

Help this post out…share your experiences.  Do you tend to alter your response based on how you expect others to respond? Is this true in family and friend relationships also?

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9 thoughts on “The Way a Leader is Expected to Respond…

  1. We always expect the leader to respond in a unbiased, fair and objective way. The leader is always under high scrutiny. There can be no time out in leader's game. He can never let down his team. The leader has more influence than any other in the team. That why we say that leadership ias more about influence rather the position.

  2. Good stuff. Wish I read this years ago. I tend to respond differently to different people and wonder why I get differing results. As you explain, the more consistent I am in responding, the more constant the results from those around me.

    My challenge is to make sure to begin to respond positively to those I’ve been more negative or cautious with so they can dream big again and soar in their area of expertise.

  3. So you are saying that I'M the problem? I'll buy that. :)

    Seriously great post! Honest insight that reveals the "layers" of what's really going on in a tense room and how we can turn that climate around by OUR modeling great responses. Love when I get smacked upside the head so early in my day! Thanks!