As a counselor and pastor, I have used many techniques to attempt the same. One of the best and easiest strategies to helping couples grow their marriage is to practice and apply these three terms to your marriage:
Learn how different each of you is from each other. God designed a man and a woman with different desires, needs and interests. Each spouse communicates differently, prefers life organized at a different pace, and handles disappointments and excitements differently. Spend quantity time identifying those differences.
It is not enough to identify differences. Each spouse has unique expectations of what he or she expects from the marriage and the other spouse. These are the things required, in one spouse’s opinion, to make marriage work well. Spend quantity time identifying these expectations.
(You can read a post of similar thought process HERE.)
Your marriage needs continuous open dialogue. There should be a willingness to talk through each of the previous two terms throughout the marriage. Each spouse having different and have unique expectations is not wrong. That’s part of God’s design for marriage. Communicating those differences is one of the keys to making the marriage work well.
(Learn about communication in a marriage HERE.)
Most problems in a marriage begin as minor problems. The key to keeping the marriage strong and working through the problems is to address the problems while they are still small. If your marriage is experiencing minor problems, which you feel in your heart could become major if not addressed, then this post is for you. Even if your marriage is thriving now, but simply want to strengthen it, implementing these three terms may help.
Could using these three words help make your marriage stronger?