Comments on: 7 Ways I Protect My Heart and Ministry From an Affair http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html The Blog of Leader, Pastor, and Church Planter Ron Edmondson Sun, 12 Feb 2012 17:01:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: ronedmondson http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-27856 ronedmondson Wed, 08 Feb 2012 04:17:11 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-27856 Would love to see you sometime! Would love to see you sometime!

]]> By: @imattchell http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-27854 @imattchell Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:55:30 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-27854 I stumbled upon this post through other posts and love it, Ron! I'm a single guy, but have similar, but different, and in some ways, probably looser boundaries. I just wanted to say, I've noticed that a lot of the commenters who have negative things to say (I'd say most) seem to be women. There's been a lot of accusation, and I think that's kind of sad. One thing I want to say to the girls is that you just don't understand what it's like to be a guy. Statistically speaking, men struggle with pornography and lust something like four or five times as much than women. Men are more visual, and probably more prone to wandering eyes and wandering thoughts than women. Having a weakness doesn't make us perverts or bad or wrong. Putting up safeguards to protect ourselves, our loved ones, and the women we interact with isn't us looking down on women at all, it's us not wanting to dishonour you. If you feel like Ron's boundaries are offensive, I'm sorry, but that's your issue, not his. Ron, I love reading your thoughts on marriage and communicating with the opposite sex and I love your vulnerability on this blog. Be encouraged! I've got to put it on my list to make it to GCC some day, because I love everything I see that's coming out of that church! I stumbled upon this post through other posts and love it, Ron! I'm a single guy, but have similar, but different, and in some ways, probably looser boundaries.
I just wanted to say, I've noticed that a lot of the commenters who have negative things to say (I'd say most) seem to be women. There's been a lot of accusation, and I think that's kind of sad. One thing I want to say to the girls is that you just don't understand what it's like to be a guy. Statistically speaking, men struggle with pornography and lust something like four or five times as much than women. Men are more visual, and probably more prone to wandering eyes and wandering thoughts than women. Having a weakness doesn't make us perverts or bad or wrong. Putting up safeguards to protect ourselves, our loved ones, and the women we interact with isn't us looking down on women at all, it's us not wanting to dishonour you. If you feel like Ron's boundaries are offensive, I'm sorry, but that's your issue, not his. Ron, I love reading your thoughts on marriage and communicating with the opposite sex and I love your vulnerability on this blog. Be encouraged! I've got to put it on my list to make it to GCC some day, because I love everything I see that's coming out of that church!

]]> By: 12 Top Blog Posts of Some of My Favorite Bloggers | Ron Edmondson http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-24334 12 Top Blog Posts of Some of My Favorite Bloggers | Ron Edmondson Fri, 04 Nov 2011 11:02:52 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-24334 [...] 7 Ways I Protect My Heart and Ministry From an Affair [...] [...] 7 Ways I Protect My Heart and Ministry From an Affair [...]

]]> By: ronedmondson http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-23451 ronedmondson Tue, 04 Oct 2011 14:58:04 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-23451 Thank you so much. I could work for a guy like you, because I could more easily trust you! Thank you so much. I could work for a guy like you, because I could more easily trust you!

]]> By: ronedmondson http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-23450 ronedmondson Tue, 04 Oct 2011 14:57:04 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-23450 Thank you Rob! I needed your comment! Thank you Rob! I needed your comment!

]]> By: dukeguy http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-23449 dukeguy Tue, 04 Oct 2011 14:55:38 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-23449 I have similar rules in my life, and require other staff members to apply them as well. Result: over 30 years of ministry and 38 years of happy marriage. Am I a hard-wired, adulterous mysogynist? Not sure how to respond to that one, but I know this - everyone is capable of anything given the right set of circumstances, and the friends and ministry colleagues I know who have fallen all broke one or more of these rules. I have similar rules in my life, and require other staff members to apply them as well. Result: over 30 years of ministry and 38 years of happy marriage. Am I a hard-wired, adulterous mysogynist? Not sure how to respond to that one, but I know this – everyone is capable of anything given the right set of circumstances, and the friends and ministry colleagues I know who have fallen all broke one or more of these rules.

]]> By: Rob Holliday http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-23448 Rob Holliday Tue, 04 Oct 2011 14:47:36 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-23448 Great post, Ron, I think you're dealing very realistically and practically with your own temptations; when I read this, I'm reminded of Paul's advice in 1 Cor 6:18(a). I know I share some of the same struggles. It's not about pleasing anyone else besides God and, if married, our spouse. Why we'd want to try to negotiate or bargain or overestimate our abilities to withstand temptation in this area I'm not sure, when so much is at stake. We all face temptations, some more so than others, but whatever they may be for someone, when we think we can strike a deal with temptation, surely we're losing the struggle already. Great post, Ron, I think you're dealing very realistically and practically with your own temptations; when I read this, I'm reminded of Paul's advice in 1 Cor 6:18(a). I know I share some of the same struggles. It's not about pleasing anyone else besides God and, if married, our spouse. Why we'd want to try to negotiate or bargain or overestimate our abilities to withstand temptation in this area I'm not sure, when so much is at stake. We all face temptations, some more so than others, but whatever they may be for someone, when we think we can strike a deal with temptation, surely we're losing the struggle already.

]]> By: Allison http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-23446 Allison Tue, 04 Oct 2011 13:26:37 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-23446 So many of these "Christian Men's Not Cheating Lists" are incredibly offensive. How about asking God to help you see women as equal human beings instead of sexual objects for your use and pleasure. Gag. So many of these "Christian Men's Not Cheating Lists" are incredibly offensive. How about asking God to help you see women as equal human beings instead of sexual objects for your use and pleasure.

Gag.

]]> By: Mercedes http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-22690 Mercedes Sat, 27 Aug 2011 19:29:20 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-22690 this is something that seems unpure about religion in this instance. you are looking to something outside of yourself to keep you from being "bad", with this definition of bad being from the beliefs of religion. there are people who don't have to try so hard to not have "lustful" thoughts, because they don't have these ideas in their head of these things being bad. when you are told something is bad people want it more, it creates desire. i think it's healthier to accept that you have those desires and then they might be easier to overcome, wouldn't have so much hold over you to where you create a prison of rules for yourself. but if you're bound up in your beliefs then you would be closed-minded or argumentative of that anyway. if you really only had eyes for your wife this shouldn't be an issue. this is something that seems unpure about religion in this instance. you are looking to something outside of yourself to keep you from being “bad”, with this definition of bad being from the beliefs of religion. there are people who don’t have to try so hard to not have “lustful” thoughts, because they don’t have these ideas in their head of these things being bad. when you are told something is bad people want it more, it creates desire. i think it’s healthier to accept that you have those desires and then they might be easier to overcome, wouldn’t have so much hold over you to where you create a prison of rules for yourself. but if you’re bound up in your beliefs then you would be closed-minded or argumentative of that anyway. if you really only had eyes for your wife this shouldn’t be an issue.

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/12/7-ways-i-protect-my-heart-and-ministry-from-an-affair.html#comment-22001 Stephanie Sat, 30 Jul 2011 04:33:19 +0000 http://www.ronedmondson.com/?p=4687#comment-22001 An excellent post, Ron! I admire you for having such stringent guidelines to protect your marriage and your heart. Clearly, you treasure your wife and family. Thanks for being a great example to the younger generation. An excellent post, Ron! I admire you for having such stringent guidelines to protect your marriage and your heart. Clearly, you treasure your wife and family. Thanks for being a great example to the younger generation.

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