7 Tips For Surviving The Terrible Threes Of Parenting

Young parents will often remind me of a parenting phenomenon that I experienced firsthand.  Perhaps you did also. My friend is living through her first “terrible threes”.   She has a three year old trying her patience.  As with so many others (most it seems), it’s not the “terrible twos” that is a problem…it’s the “terrible threes”.

It goes something like this:  One day your precious angel; the one everyone thinks is so cute, who was hardly ever a problem before, suddenly becomes a holy terror at times.   You have never dealt with such temper tantrums, back-talking sassiness, and outbursts of anger.  You may have entered the terrible threes.

Children cycle through many phases and it shouldn’t be too surprising if they go through a rebellious stage early in life.   The terrible threes, or twos, as the case may be, most likely is the time when the child most openly expresses his or her independence.  The more independent the child, the more difficult this time can be.

He or she is exploring a new world, testing boundaries, discovering their own personality, and filtering through reactions of others.  As with other phases the child will experience, this one is difficult for the child as well as the parent, but in this phase the child is the least mature and their reaction is likewise.

Here is my advice for surviving the terrible threes:

Suffer through it! Most likely, it will not last long,, perhaps not even a whole year, and there is hope on the other side.

Be consistent - This is not the time to give in to the child’s outbursts. This is the time to consistently follow through with prescribed discipline.

Keep loving -  As much as your child tries your patience, continue to always exhibit love to your child, even during discipline.

Experiment – Use different discipline methods until you find one that works for this stage of the child’s life.

Remember you are the adult – Sometimes when the child is showing his or her worse side it is tempting to show yours.  Keep your cool. Be mature.  Handle these days firmly, but calmly.  Remember you are modeling behavior for your child.

Teach your child – This phase can be a great opportunity to teach your child how to respond to disappointment and frustration.

Don’t be afraid to share your situation with others. Often parents are embarrassed because of their children’s behavior during this stage of life so they hide the struggle; not realizing that so many other parents experience the same with their children.  The biggest surprise at this stage of your child’s life may be when you discover you are not unique in this struggle.

By the way, these work in most other phases of a child’s life also.

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What’s your story?  If you are a parent, did you experience more of the terrible twos or the terrible threes?

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20 thoughts on “7 Tips For Surviving The Terrible Threes Of Parenting

  1. zig ziglar says when we get in touch with them "terrible twos" we are usually offering them recommendations on how to act. he indicates calling them "terrific twos" instead. when i suggested this to my sis she seemed pretty disappointed at me. oh well, at least we have this level to look forward to with gretchen.

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  6. zig ziglar says when we call them "terrible twos" we are basically giving them instructions on how to act. he suggests calling them "terrific twos" instead. when i suggested this to my sister she looked pretty angry at me. oh well, at least we have this phase to look forward to with luke.

    • Yeah, Josh, I would agree with Zig on that one…if you are saying this to your kids. I consider this more “adult” conversation. I believe taking the positive approach to the whole parenting thing, by having a plan, staying positive, enduring the difficult days, etc., is a good way to parent. As I’ve said many times, when the children get older the bad times are harder to remember. You are going to be a great dad.

  7. Thank you for this Ron. I have two 3yr olds and somedays I think they are going to drive me crazy. I am starting to notice some gray hairs. I keep telling myself, This too shall pass.

  8. With Kassidy it was definitely terrible 3s! She woke up on her 3rd birthday a different child! I asked God to give me my sweet little girl back! She was fabulous at 2… go figure! :) We suffered through it though and she went back to being fabulous… of course now she’s getting close to being a terrible pre-teen! haha (Can that be your next series?!)

    Kameron… had a lot of autistic tendencies when he was little so he didn’t have “normal” terrible 2 behavior, but from about 18 months to age 4 was REALLY hard with him. He’s awesome now.

    Kennedy of course is on her own schedule and own time line. She has moments of defiance, even now at 5 that I think, “Kassidy did that at 3!” But we’re also still recovering from her being treated with extra TLC from all her surgeries and maybe getting a little spoiled with that.

    Keeghan is TWO. ALL TWO. Frank calls him Jekyll and Hyde! LOL One minute he’s sweet and cute and snuggling up to you, and the next… well… yes, I’m pretty sure “Terrible Two’s” was made just for him! HA! Thanks for this post! It was a good reminder that I’m not alone!
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