Comments on: Disciplining Children: To Spank or Not to Spank?

By: kris

kris — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 11:57:29 +0000

I agree 100%. Some people can’t spank their kids bc they know they are likely to spank too hard. I tried spanking on both children but realized with one child that is escalated his anger and created more problems. He would match my physical level and then some. In order to breed gentleness in him we had to model it. A harsh word crushes him especially when we tell him we are disappointed. Overall they need love more than anything but often that means discipline. I learned to use “scripting” to plan out how I would handle a behavior problem in the future. This way I/we feel more confident to carry out a consistent and effect discipline plan.

By: ronedmondson

ronedmondson — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 03:47:59 +0000

Thanks Dale.

By: Dale

Dale — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 05:50:38 +0000

Great post Ron,

There’s nothing worse than feeling like certain methods of discipline should be hidden and kept away from the pulpit, but I agree with you that discipline is not the biggest thing that our time shoul be devoted to when it comes to parenting. Having a life plan for their lives and setting them on track far outweighs which method we should or shouldn’t use. One of our 4 kids was like yours an needed it more than the others and looking back, had we not chosen this method, I really don’t know how he would have turned out.

Great post,
Dale

By: Doug

Doug — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 18:32:59 +0000

Ron,
you will see that tim was commenting on a previous comment to your post.

By: ronedmondson

ronedmondson — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 18:04:30 +0000

Cool. Got it. Thanks

By: ronedmondson

ronedmondson — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 13:03:38 +0000

Tim, I appreciate your comment and for the life of me I have no clue what you are talking about. Where in my post do I talk about sexual pleasure or indicate that you should not spank or follow the rules of the UN? I think you may have commented on the wrong post. If you read mine you'll see that I DID SPANK!

By: Tim

Tim — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 12:39:41 +0000

I visited the site you gave and read the article related specifically titled "Spanking Can be Sexual Abuse". What a joke. They take a few disgusting individuals who were arrested for getting sexual pleasure out of spanking children and you and others use it to say "look, spanking can be sexual abuse." As a whole, that's absurd. And forgive me if I do not hold the UN or other countries up as an authority on how I believe my child needs to be disciplined. Frankly, I'm all for doing exactly the opposite of what the other member nations of the UN do at any given point.

By: PhDeverit

PhDeverit — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 03:02:50 +0000

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit http://www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
Center For Effective Discipline,
PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals,
Churches' Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

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