Will you hold me accountable?
People always ask me about my relationship with my boys and what I did to cultivate it. I have two amazing sons who I deeply love. I am certainly one of their biggest fans. Thankfully, I think they like me too. It is a privilege to have them continue to come to me for wisdom now that they are 20 and 17 years old.
- I prayed for them daily
- We spent a lot of time together. I never missed a game, practice, or school event unless I was out of town.
- We threw, kicked, shot, and bounced a lot of balls
- We talked a ton
- I shared Biblical principles with them
- I extended lots of grace (They did with me too)
- I made sure they knew they always had my heart and my attention
- We had mucho fun! (We laughed a lot!)
Our relationship has changed over the last couple years. My boys have gotten older and I’ve gotten busier. Still, we very much enjoy being together as much as we allow ourselves the time.
Lately, something has apparently gotten in the way that wasn’t there when the boys were younger. I have always been an “A” type personality. People ask how I can balance so much, and honestly it’s just because I’m never still. That hasn’t changed. One thing has been added to my life though since the boys were younger. My Blackberry! Thankfully son number two is never afraid to call me on something. He loves to hold me accountable.
Recently he and I were going to breakfast together and when we arrived at the restaurant and were about to get out of the car the conversation went like this:
Nate: Are you going to take that (Blackberry) inside?
Me: I was planning on it.
Nate: Well can you not this time?
Me: Okay, but remember Nate, I am a pastor.
Nate: Yea, but you’re also a dad.
Okay, I’m slow, but I’m not that slow. I could argue that my family never leaves their phones in the car, but their argument would be that I receive 10 or more calls, texts, or emails every 30 minutes, so I left it in the car. My intent is to do a better job of putting it down when I have precious time with my family. Nate leaves for college in a few months. I want our time together to continue to count.
Will you hold me accountable? Periodically feel free to ask me how I’m doing.
How are you doing in this area?